Running in Circles

the looking glass

no sooner do you receive the invitation
than you go to your closet, reflexively
grab expectation from its hanger, slip it on,

and give yourself a quick check
in the mirror. looks good, you think, 
without actually looking, as you

mindlessly press the little hanger nipple 
that you can never quite smooth out
on each shoulder.

expectation feels familiar against your skin,
is a long-time go-to. your body remembers 
when it seemed so intrinsic to your wardrobe, 

yet forgets the near-threadbare
wear and tear you’ve shared since,
not now noticing the habitual way 

you tug at the seams to keep
them straight, the way
this aged attire feels a little tight

no matter how often you fidget with it.
at day’s end, when taking it
off, your fingernail catches in the fabric

and rips threads loose: has expectation 
ever fit well? ever really pulled an outfit
together for you? ever measured up 

to its price-tag and assumed promise?
has it earned its staying power
during ruthless closet culling?

you hesitate, hanging in a walk-in space
of decision: will you place 
this relic back on its hanger?

—dotty seiter

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Notes about poem and art:
• Writing “the looking glass” was challenging and satisfying. I wrestled with both the development of the extended metaphor and the inner psychological work underpinning it. I’m grateful for the wrestling, grateful for the way the metaphor has continued to inform me helpfully in my day-to-day living.
• Painted during the Sketchbook Revival Challenge 2026 back in August, Press, Tug, Fidget is a trio of inchies that runs loosely in circles as I myself am sometimes wont to do in more ways than one.



8 responses to “Running in Circles”

  1. For the first time I am a little bewildered….. The metaphor seems to alludes me. Am I looking at myself from another perspective? We are not what we once were,,, but nevertheless not to be discarded even if we have to smooth out some of the wrinkles!

    Your dancing roses are amazing…. match your feelings! There are days like that!

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  2. Carol, thanks for the feedback of bewilderment—let me know if the metaphor becomes clearer if you know that the poem is about the speaker’s relationship with internal expectations.

    Dancing roses—love that descriptor! I want to fiddle with ombré inchies again as part of my ongoing exploration of watercolor and all that it offers up to learn.

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    1. Yes, that helps, actually I must have translated immediately the word “expectation” as a piece of clothing. The poem became literal as if expectation is a dress! Am I making sense? You are a master!

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      1. You are making complete sense! THAT is the metaphor! To put it in simile format, expectation is like a piece of clothing whose value I never really examined but routinely chose to wear despite its never really living up to what I thought it would be! Writing this particular poem was very therapeutic—like a good appointment with a counselor. I had to look at every angle and face my inner foibles. It forced valuable growth : )

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    Joyful Puttering

    I SO related to the poem when I first read it on a literal level…which is mostly where I live. Who doesn’t have those pesky hanger nipples (brilliant BTW…and I’ll always think of them that way from now on) and live constantly evaluating the worthiness of things in our closets. I love some things on the hanger way more than I love them on me. Maybe it’s time for some of them to go.

    Then I read Carol’s comment and your response and now see it both literally and metaphorically. We spend a lot of time making daily decisions and evaluating our expectations. A friend uses the phrase “is it something…or nothing.”

    LOVE LOVE LOVE the ombre inky circles. I often say stitching changes everything….but often outlines change everything too!

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    1. MaryAnn, thanks for your discussion at many levels regarding my poem. I have yet to tire of discussing creative process and response (both poetry and art)! Thanks for your appreciation of “hanger nipples”—a phrase that didn’t come until I’d revised this poem many many times already and would probably never have come at all had I not set out to write a poem (whose central theme had nothing to do with hanger nipples!). You totally “got” the metaphor, i.e. I love some [expectations] on the hanger way more than I love them on me.

      Grateful for your feedback on the ombré inky circles; I think I’ll continue to press, tug, and fidget further with that concept.

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  4. Oh my word, Dotty! You have done it again! Evoke a connection, emotion and even anxiety with that poem like it was written just for ME!

    reflexivelygrab expectation from its hanger, slip it on

    I do this! I do this with so many things…reflexively grabbing expectation without giving something a chance to surprise me in its unfolding. And I echo the sentiments of others in being spectacularly delighted by “hanger nipples”, one of the few kinds of nipples in the world that are very undesirable. Oh my! xoxoxo

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    1. Lola! Woo hoo—so happy this struck a chord with you. The reflex still remains a reflex with me BUT, having immersed myself fully and intentionally in the writing and refining of this poem a couple of months ago (you know, long drying time between layers!!), I have subsequently caught myself many times in the reflexive grab, or the tugging at, or the reaching to hang it back up in my internal closet, and it makes a LOVELY DIFFERENCE in how I navigate from that point on in whatever circumstance I find myself in. Or, if I land in a failed expectation, I find I NOTICE and can laugh, shaking my head saying, Did I not drop that off at the fiber recycling place???

      Hanger nipples!!! I love that my muse passed that one along : )

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